Successfully Single – Element #5


Here is the fifth and final element for living Successfully Single. I hope this has been a blessing to you!

Future – Your future will be no better than your vision, value system and the virtue you possess. Those who will live a successful single life must strive to possess and be strong in all three.

A) Vision – divine direction; God’s direction for your life (Prov. 29:18)

–    You will perish waiting on someone else to give direction or vision to your life. You must get a vision for your life from God.

B) Value System – an anchor for your life; moral standards that are non-negotiable; the foundation for integrity; the standard by which you judge everything else.

– Your standard ought to be the Word of God

C) Virtue – moral excellence in demonstration; living what is right. Wherever there is virtue there is power! Many Christians have no power because they have no moral excellence. (2 Peter 1:5; Phil. 1:10) Moral excellence is what produces power!

How do you get vision, virtue and a value system? They come through the fellowship of the Spirit! You must not only be born again, baptized in the Spirit but you must be filled with or under the control of the Holy Ghost.

–    Gal. 5:16

–    Rom. 8

See you next week and Stay on Target!

Successfully Single – Element #4


Here is the fourth element from the message concerning being Successfully Single! Thanks for all of your comments and to all new followers!

Finding (for the men) and Being Found (for the ladies):

The Bible teaches that a man is to find a wife, giving us two thoughts: males are to do the finding and females are to adept at being found. This has taken a new format in our day. Many are resorting to the Internet to find a mate. There have been some successes, but there have also been many more nightmares! My encouragement to you, Stay with the Word! Learn to release faith for a mate. And while you are in the process, work on…

A) Emotional preparation – Know who you are according to the Word of God

1) Males (You are a man of God)

– Created in God’s own image (Gen. 1:26-27)

– Head over your wife (Gen. 3:16; 1 Cor. 11:3; 1 Peter 3:1; Eph. 5:22-23)

– You are to rule over your home (1 Tim. 3:5, 12; Gen. 18:19)

– You are to work and provide for your household (Gen. 1:26-27; 1 Tim. 5:8; 2 Thess. 3:10, Gen. 3;19; Exod. 20:9)

– You are the priest for your family (Josh. 24:15)

– You are to be full of and manifest the fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5: 22-23)

2) Females (You are a woman of God)

– You are to be a virtuous woman (Prov. 31:10)

– You are to be a good thing that brings the favor of God (Prov. 18:22)

– You are to be gracious (Prov. 11:16)

– You are to be discrete (Prov. 11:22)

– You are to be strong, honorable, wise and kind (Prov. 31:25-26)

– You are to be full of and manifest the fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5: 22-23)

Note: Neither of you should be lazy or given to anger.

B) Financial preparation: 6 things to do with your money

– Support the kingdom

– Pay  your taxes

– Pay your debts

– Provide for your living expenses

– Save and accumulate

– Provide for the poor and the needy

C) Spiritual preparation – Produces good, godly self-esteem

(Females) – Your responsibility is to be found. Not to do the finding. Work on being more like Christ!


– Seek to be married for God’s purposes and not your own.

– Become someone worthy of being found. Work on being more like Jesus!


We are almost there! Hang in there with me for the fifth and final element on tomorrow! Until then, Stay on target!

Successfully Single – Element #3

Hello all:

The Third Element of the Five Elements for Successful Single Living is:

Friendships – Build godly friendships

– Christian friendships should be symbiotic and not parasitic. They should be life-giving and mutually beneficial.

– Have a few trusted friends who will not only provoke you to live Christlike but who will hold you accountable even when dating.

– Understand that there are levels or varying types of friendships but the highest of these is “Covenant friendships”.

– Know that a “Covenant Friendship” requires and provides compassion, caring, communication and commitment

– Realize that a “Covenant friend” is an All In Friend.

If you have been enriched by this blog, let us know and share it with your friends. We want to cause others to get better and need your help!

Until the next, Stay On Target!

Successfully Single – Part 2

Hello all:

The Second Element for those who want to live Successfully Single is:

Foundation – You must develop the right foundation

A) Strive to reach the “state of singleness”

B) Become emotionally healthy and mature (1 Cor. 13:11)

C) Develop biblical sexual discipline (1 Cor. 6:13; 1 Thess. 4:3-4; Eph. 5:3)

D) Progress and develop mastery in your career (Prov. 24:27)

E) Take advantage of the “life lessons” of Independent Living.

Note: You are not fully ready to move into another state (ie. Marriage) until you have fulfilled these goals.

Until the next time, Stay On Target!